The road to my being the high net wife was unusual, but not completely unexpected. A decade ago, my husband and I were both very ambitious twenty-somethings. While he was finishing his training in the medical field, I was a highly successful upper level manager in the pharmaceutical industry. I was very much a career woman and I expected to resume this career after we got married and had kids. In my head, I had it very well-planned.

• Take 12 weeks paid maternity leave

• Work at home for next 12 weeks (pre-approved by my awesome employer)
• Enroll First Born in daycare
• Resume High powered career in pharma

That is until I met my daughter.

The moment I gave birth and held my daughter in my arms, my life changed and my plans to resume my busy corporate life slowly dissipated into thin air. All I wanted was to stay with my baby. I didn’t want to leave her, especially with strangers. Call it the first mommy syndrome, but yes, I was the typical first-time mother. I hovered over my first born. I watched her while she slept, afraid that she will stop breathing (I was deathly afraid of SIDS). I fussed over every little thing my child did. My world started to revolve around her.

Six months passed and daycare was no longer an option. Since our household income at that time did not provide enough disposable income to pay for a nanny (which in the northeast is a small fortune) and we had no family members living close to us, I had no choice but to stay home. At this point, I was working at home on a consulting basis. However, this was overextended at this point and both my employer and I were feeling that the setup was not working fairly for both us.

So I quit.

I cried that day. The realization of my decision weighed down on me and for the first time in my life, I doubted myself and questioned my self worth. Never mind that in a few years, my husband would have finished training and he would be pulling in an income that could support us whether or not I worked. I was never trained to be just a wife. Being the youngest of seven kids, with an 8 year gap between myself and the sister before me, I was the independent one. I was never domesticated. My young adult years were built on building a career. A career that has now ended.

Hence began my journey into what I am today. It was a hard decision, but it was a decision that needed to be done and will never regret.

Hello there! Welcome to High Net Wife. I started this site upon the suggestion of my husband, whom I will call Mr. HNWI. Both of us are avid readers of financial blogs and realized that although there is a good abundance of sites penned by men, there are only a handful that are written from a woman’s point of view. I have never blogged before, although I have always shared my experiences to others, whether they be through conversations, informal gatherings, or an interview here and there. I do not claim to be an expert on anything by any means, but I believe there may be some value in my learnings and experiences. I hope you enjoy reading and please feel free to let me know any comments and suggestions to make this site better.

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